I’m no stranger to feeling stuck in life.
But when I wanted to start my own company, to share my knowledge about motivational
psychology and training with others, it wasn’t as easy as I’d thought it would be.
Launching a new business is not easy. You have to give up the comforts of a stable
paycheck to delve into the unknown, an unpredictable abyss. A lot of things keep us
from making the leap—things like fear and insecurity. And one thing above all the rest:
So, here are my 10 best tips for achieving anything you want in life.
1. Focus on commitment, not motivation.
Just how committed are you to your goal? How important is it for you, and what are you
willing to sacrifice in order to achieve it? If you find yourself fully committed, motivation
2. Seek knowledge, not results.
If you focus on the excitement of discovery, improving, exploring and experimenting,
your motivation will always be fueled. If you focus only on results, your motivation will be
like weather—it will die the minute you hit a storm. So the key is to focus on the journey,
not the destination. Keep thinking about what you are learning along the way and what
you can improve.
3. Make the journey fun.
It’s an awesome game! The minute you make it serious, there’s a big chance it will
start carrying a heavy emotional weight and you will lose perspective and become stuck
4. Get rid of stagnating thoughts.
Thoughts influence feelings and feelings determine how you view your work. You have a
lot of thoughts in your head, and you always have a choice of which ones to focus on:
the ones that will make you emotionally stuck (fears, doubts) or the ones that will move
you forward (excitement, experimenting, trying new things, stepping out of your comfort
5. Use your imagination.
Next step after getting rid of negative thoughts is to use your imagination. When things
go well, you are full of positive energy, and when you are experiencing difficulties, you
need to be even more energetic. So rename your situation. If you keep repeating I hate
my work, guess which feelings those words will evoke? It’s a matter of imagination! You
can always find something to learn even from the worst boss in the world at the most
boring job. I have a great exercise for you: Just for three days, think and say positive
things only. See what happens.
6. Stop being nice to yourself.
Motivation means action and action brings results. Sometimes your actions fail to bring
the results you want. So you prefer to be nice to yourself and not put yourself in a
difficult situation. You wait for the perfect timing, for an opportunity, while you drive
yourself into stagnation and sometimes even into depression. Get out there, challenge
yourself, do something that you want to do even if you are afraid.
7. Get rid of distractions.
Meaningless things and distractions will always be in your way, especially those easy,
usual things you would rather do instead of focusing on new challenging and meaningful
projects. Learn to focus on what is the most important. Write a list of time-wasters and
hold yourself accountable to not do them.
8. Don’t rely on others.
You should never expect others to do it for you, not even your partner, friend or boss.
They are all busy with their own needs. No one will make you happy or achieve your
goals for you. It’s all on you.
Know your three steps forward. You do not need more. Fill out your weekly calendar,
noting when you will do what and how. When-what- how is important to schedule. Review
how each day went by what you learned and revise what you could improve.
10. Protect yourself from burnout.
It’s easy to burn out when you are very motivated. Observe yourself to recognize any
signs of tiredness and take time to rest. Your body and mind rest when you schedule
relaxation and fun time into your weekly calendar. Do diverse tasks, keep switching
between something creative and logical, something physical and still, working alone and
with a team. Switch locations. Meditate, or just take deep breaths, close your eyes, or
focus on one thing for five minutes.
You lack motivation not because you are lazy or don’t have a goal. Even the biggest
stars, richest businesspeople or the most accomplished athletes get lost sometimes.
What makes them motivated is the curiosity about how much better or faster they can
get. So above all, be curious, and this will lead you to your goals and success.