Develop an interest in life as you see it, the people, things, literature, music – the world is so rich, simply throbbing with rich treasures, beautiful souls and interesting people. Forget yourself.
We are not wired for isolation. We need other people to help us stay aligned and to bring out the best in us. Most of the great work that’s accomplished is done in the context of a community. Very few people are able to stay aligned and engaged with others in their life to help fuel their passions.
First, let’s all agree that relationships are tricky because they always involve diverse interests, objectives and personalities, and there are no surefire ways to ensure relational success, because you are always at the mercy of these unknowns. One must approach any relationships with the attitude – ‘What can I offer ? ‘ rather than – ‘What can I receive ?’ . If you engage in relationships from a posture of generosity, with a genuine desire to serve the needs of others while simultaneously seeking a better understanding of yourself and your abilities, it will be a win for everyone. The more you are able to give, the more you will learn about yourself and your own limits and potential.
Just as a mirror allows you to see your true appearance, other people in your life can serve to help you see beyond your assumptions and blind spots. No matter how confident you are in your abilities, there will come a time when you are uncertain of the next step. In these situations, it’s important to have someone who can help you stay aligned and remind you of what’s truly important. We all need these kinds of mirrors in our life.
Establish a regular time to get together with your mirror to chat about how work is going, discuss what you’re seeing , and challenge and encourage each other in your work. Your mirrors serves as ‘outposts’ who can show you where you may be falling short of your intentions.
Talking about risk is a great way to normalize things. Once we become aware of what others around us are doing in their pursuit of great work, it gives us courage to do the same. Ask others about the risks, they are taking in their life and work, and then share yours. This will dispel the lie that you are alone in taking worthwhile, calculated risks, and will help you better assess the kinds of risks you should be taking in your work.
Who will you connect to today ? do let me know.